In just a few short days, I've known of 5 couples, long term in-love couples, who have changed their Facebook status to 'Jack and Jill are no longer in a relationship - with that broken heart sticking out as a symbol of their collective failure.
With only 2 weeks until Valentines Day, more and more broken hearts will form on Facebook news feed's around the country. In fact, the period between New Years and Valentines Day is when couples are twice as likely to break up.
Valentines Day celebrates the love between two people... but in reality, in the ever-so-wise words of Tina Turner - What's love got to do, got to do with it?
Society is far too centered on the word and idea of 'Love'. We are taught from a young age that we need to find Love - love our family, love our partner and we will find happiness.
It's a fraudulent idea.
People believe that once they love someone, it'll all work out, because isn't that how every other couple survives?
It's not by the way..... It is with hard work, respect, trust and honesty. These well kept secrets alone will make a relationship successful. Once again Tina had it right – What’s love but a second hand emotion.
And sometimes.... it just won't work, nor is it worth making it work. Couples tend to drag out relationships, keeping something alive that clearly isn't working for either of you.
But alas, you happen to love them.... oh so dearly, so you neither of you bring it up. JEEE-ZUS people, it's time to rip the security blanket away. Love won't solve your problems. It'll only make them worse.
Love is an addiction, and just like other addicting drugs, as fabulous as they may be, they muddle things in your life. Love = Drug = Cloudy state of disrepair.
As great as the drug seems at the time, it's really doing nothing for you or the relationship formed while in love.
So my advice to every couple out there is, fall out of love, and if your relationship stands, you then have a good solid foundation to build upon. If not, embrace National Break Up Season, be bold! Move on! And find a true someone not to love.
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I shall not be celebrating Valentines Day this year, but will celebrate the sea, surf and amazing scenery in Tofino with a Man that I respect, honour, trust and laugh with. Perhaps I love him, but you'll never hear me admit it.
3 comments:
But you always say it.....
Hypocracy i tell you!
Sorry, I'm jealous of your surf trip (shaking my fist)
Way to Blog!!
Oh Kelly, ever the optimist. :) I'm not sure I agree that what you're talking about is love. It may be more of a strong form of attraction or infatuation. Love is the stuff that sticks when everything else falls apart.
So how did you find my blog my dear!?
And by the way I didn't groan when I found out you were on my team for outreach. That was actually one of my best outreaches. Dave, the Maple Syrup costume??? How could we go wrong?!
Good job on the blog!
Love is a stamp of approval, just like the stamp you merrily receive on your way out of a mental institution...SANE!
I think Valentines day should burn!
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